Thursday, October 27, 2016

My take on reality shows



       See reality shows are very entertaining and that's mainly what it is for right? I started watching this show love and hop just about 2 years ago and now I have something to say. First I want to know why come all the women on this show always have to have their breasts out? I mean shoot I cant even concentrate or take them serious when they be discussing an issue because their breast are just sitting there. I mean we obviously know that majority of the women on these reality shows have work done and they can do whatever the hell they want. I think I might get some work done. But these days  kids watch these shows,....(which mines wouldn't be allowed to) and they think that their bodies are just naturally like that and want to be them. Reality shows portray a fake image, magazines, music videos and everything. It's called reality but at times are far from that. Not only kids,...adults look up to things like this too. I am sorry to say that but there are some out there that do.
       These shows these days are teaching our kids and people the wrong things and people out there are trying to live a fantasy life that they see on tv. Everybody's life is different. Everybody struggle. They hardly show that. They show women in make-up all the time like they don't have bad days so every one is living upon those expectations. It is more to life than just make-up and fashion because that love and hip hop show is like a fashion show....dealing with talent less people.. making a fool out of themselves. I mean there may just be a couple of talented people on there but how many people have made it big? Not many. Just tell me how everybody want to go from stripping to making trashy music?

Friday, October 21, 2016

Mothers being too young or the ones that just dont know any better


I am seeing a lot of things going on in this world. Especially with young mothers...mainly young black mothers and fathers but that's another story. I seen a picture of this little girl that didn't look no more than 6 years old with a tight stretch like jumpsuit on with some kind of high bun in her head with weave. She just looked too grown. And why?.. It's like the mother is dressing the child like she dress...which is probably the case. Look, let kids be kids. Dress kids like they are kids. Instead of focusing on clothes we need to be focused on putting these children in books. We are teaching kids the wrong thing and wonder why things happen to them or they end up being disrescpectful because we are trying to be our kids best friend! No. A child do not need their moms to be their best friend...they need a mother. Lets stop the nonsense.

Sunday, October 16, 2016

Find your inner wonder woman!


  So your man keep hurting you and it keep happening over and over. He say he will change and he apologizes but that isn't special on a count of he say that everytime and turn around and do the same thing. He keep hurting you because there isn't any consequences to his actions. He know exactly what he can say or do and everything will be alright until he mess over you again.
     See we got to stop letting people step all over us and stop being "okay" with stuff. Just being okay and comfortable will get us nowhere but stuck in a hole that we can't dig our self out of until we become stronger. Until we say enough is enough. Life is too short to put up with nonsense. Get strong and stay strong!
                                 Xoxo

Saturday, October 15, 2016

Slut where?


You know every now and then someone might say something about how a woman dress and just because they show a "little" skin they a slut or hoe. First of all, aint nothing wrong with showing a little skin....when it's appropriate. And second of all as long as we don't show too much, right? We just need to be classy when we dress ourselves. Dress like a grown woman. Not ratchett! Or clatchett! But as I say if you got it flaunt it because we won't be young forever. And people just need to mind their business anyways. Dress how you want to dress.....as long as it's not much!
                                    Xoxo

Wednesday, October 12, 2016

SAFE sex = GREAT sex




When he says,.."Baby,I don't have anything, I'm clean." Right before y'all start having sex. You were hesitant at first but you just got caught up in the moment again. But the only thing you are nervous about is getting pregnant but pregnancy isn't what we all need to be worried about,...it's the sexual transmitted diseases that people don't really take serious. You can't tell by how a person looks that they got something.        And let's be real, do you actually think that dude go get tested yearly?...Do you go get checked yearly? And a lot of people be blinded by love and just think because I sleep with this one person I'm okay,..some people are sneaky and you don't know what they was doing before you meet them or when they not around you. And pay close attention if he is so quick to go in you unprotected,.. Image how many other people he did that too.
     Women,.. I just ask that we protect our body more don't let anyone or any type of feelings control our body. Our body is sacred. Ain't nothing wrong with having condoms on you either! That dosent make you a hoe! It makes you cautious! That is why the best sex is always being SAFE. Hell, aint nothing wrong with taking your partner with you so you both can get checked at same time..

Sunday, October 9, 2016

Definition of a woman

A woman is confident. She knows what she wants. A woman doesn't let anyone control her. She makes moves silent without telling people her business,.... Because she knows how to handle hers. A woman doesn't take any mess from anyone!

Be that woman.

Cancer is real.


Cancer can happen to anyone and since it is breast cancer awareness month I want to share something with you all. My mother had breast cancer. She first found out when she was 25 years old,...when she was pregnant with my 13 year old sister. Then the cancer came back about 6 years later when she was pregnant with my 8 year old sister and this time My mom and my grandmother was going through breast cancer at the same time. My grandmother had gotten one of her breast off and survived but this time My mom lost the battle.
     She went strong all the way until the end and it was just crazy to me to see what cancer can do to someone. I seen the daily changes of the effects of it. Which is why it is so important to get checked,.. No matter how old you are because disease doesn't have an age. I took it upon my self to go get checked. So ladies,... Even men,.. Go get checked and pay attention to anything unusual that is going on with your body because cancer is real...do something to try to prevent it like eating better and kicking your bad habits to the curve because some things we can control and some things we Just cant!
                                   Xoxo, My mother and grandma: breast cancer, My uncle: brain cancer, great Aunt: colon cancer.
                       
   

Tuesday, October 4, 2016

Listen to your mind, heart and soul!

It came to a point were I was soo stressed out and didn't have drive or energy to do anything and I didn't know what to do. I used to ask myself,.."Am I going crazy?,.. Am I depressed?" Then I went to the doctor figuring I did have depression and he prescribed me medicine...and well, I tried that, that didnt work but slowed me down even more. He even suggested that I try therapy but why talk to someone and what I am feeling is still there? And that's when I realized what my problem was. I just wasn't happy because I wasn't doing what my mind was telling me to do. I wasn't achieving my goals like I want to,.. I just wasn't motivated like I used to be and I am the type of person that have a list of goals and will not be satisfied if I don't start checking off my list and that was last year and now I am a mother and is back fully motivated and there isn't anyone getting in my way this time.

My point is if you don't listen to your mind and heart,... Your soul will never be happy! Don't let anyone get in the way of your happiness!

Monday, October 3, 2016

Ladies! Know your worth!

Never settle for less! Find you a good looking man that is on your level. (Well,.. He can  just be descent)! Someone that will cherish, respect you and treat you like the queen you should be treated like! Don't settle for these bum boys that don't have a man bone in their bodies. That don't want to see you succeed out of his fear of you leaving him because he know you can do better! Insecurities! Don't let anyone impregnate you without putting a ring on it! YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Ladies! Know your worth!

Sunday, October 2, 2016

It's OK to QUIT!

  1. Quit arguing with people about the same old foolishness! Respect their position and keep it moving!
  2. Quit telling people your secrets when you know they are not going to keep them! And if you keep telling them, then quit getting mad when they tell your secrets!
  3. Quit trying to pull people on your journey who don't want to travel with you. Either they believe in you and value you.....or they don't!
  4. Quit complaining about things you can't and won't change!
  5. Quit gossiping about other people! Minding our own business should be a full time job!
  6. Quit blaming each other for things that in the big picture aren't going to matter three weeks from now! Talk solutions....and then implement them!
  7. Quit eating things you know are not good for you! If you can't quit....eat smaller portions!
  8. Quit buying things when we know we can't afford them! If you don't have self control, then quit going to stores! Quit charging things, especially when you don't NEED them!
  9. Quit staying in unhealthy relationships! It is not okay for people to verbally or physically abuse you! So quit lying to yourself! It is not okay to stay in a marriage for the children! Ask them and they will tell you that they really would prefer to see you happy and that the misery you and your spouse/partner are living with is affecting them!
  10. Quit letting family members rope you into the drama! Start telling them you don't want to her it! Quit spreading the drama! Quit calling other relatives and telling them about your cousin or aunt! Go back to #5 minding your own business should be enough to keep you busy!
  11. Quit trying to change people! IT DOESN'T WORK! Quit cussing people out when you know that they are just being the miserable and jealous people that they are! 
  12. Quit the job you hate! Start pursuing your passion. Find the job that fuels your passion BEFORE you quit!
  13. Quit volunteering for things that you aren't getting any personal fulfillment from anymore! Quit volunteering for things and then failing to follow through with your commitment!
  14. Quit listening to the naysayers! Quit watching the depressing news if you are going to live in the doom and gloom of it all.
  15. Quit making excuses about why you are where you are or why you can't do what you want to do!
  16. Quit waiting on others to give you the answers....and start finding the answers for yourself! If what you are doing isn't working for you....then quit it!
  17. Quit settling and start making your dreams a reality. Quit being afraid and START LIVING YOUR LIFE! CREATE THE LIFE YOU WANT! If you want something different than what you have had in the past...you must quit doing what you have done before and DO something different! QUIT IT....and START DOING something to create the experience you want!

Saturday, October 1, 2016

Why I am here

Soooo... I decided to start a blog. Yay! I finally went through with it. I decided to do so because I have A LOT to say and share with my fellow peeps. Throughout this blog I will be sharing my experiences that I have been through and situations that you all can maybe relate to. Now. My main goal is to keep it real by dropping tha gems for ya'll. If you are thinking it, I just might speak it, (or write it up). :) I hope you all enjoy my blog!